I felt similar things four years ago after my bachelors. I am taking it one day at a time and these are some things I have been doing to keep the peace in my head and heart.

Meditation

If you are still in the category of people that wait for things or people to make them happy, my dear you need to change ship. That used to be me, and people or things will play ping-pong with my emotions all day. The sad part is when you are unhappy, bad situations feel heavier than they actually are. You find yourself overreacting all the time.

This doesn’t mean things will not happen that will cause you to be unhappy. In fact this period, happiness has been more conscious and required more effort. But staying happy, finding reasons to smile and laugh, and finding fun in even negative situations, make your days more palatable and could by extension affect the way you react to situations.

Don’t Give Up

Life tends to hate boring and predictable occurrences. So, you could be the most qualified and still not get the job; or you could give your best to a relationship, and it still crashes like a stack of cards, or get to a point you worked so hard for and see more closed than open doors. I have this saying “If things go exactly as you plan, be surprised”. No matter what, don’t you ever give up. Every day I wake up, I resolve to work, try, call, and just do something. I have no answers as to why things can’t just be easy-peasy. But, on a second thought where is the place of things like “values”, “character”, “faith”, if nothing happens to test them? Will thoughts of giving up come? Of course! But you and I are bosses of life, so we determine which thought stays and ‘giving up’ is not one.

Keep Good People Close

You are never alone! The mind could play tricks on you and make you think you have been abandoned and magnify situations but you are never alone. There is at least one person that cares about you. In this period, I am so grateful for family, friends, and loved ones. They have been rockstars. Dear reader, don’t lock yourself somewhere and go through life alone. Cry on someone; vent to someone; talk to someone. Even if they don’t have solutions, a listening ear goes a long way in easing burdens.

I’ve said a lot, but I’ll leave you with these words:

Romans 8:37

“Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.”

I want to hear from you. Where are you in life and how are you conquering?

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